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I’m Back!

It’s been quite awhile since I’ve written.  While I was gone I’ve been facing a challenging search for a job to work during daytime hours to supplement my coaching.  I’ve also had some health issues, nothing too serious though and I’m recovering nicely.  I’m going to try to get more serious about making better choices now that I’m (gasp) twenty-six.  And most excitingly, I’ve moved!  I have a lovely little apartment with my dog and am 100% in love with having my own space.  It’s a little out of my price range now, so I’m dipping into my savings but if the job prospect turns out I will be at the very least breaking even. (Boston is expensive, there’s no two ways about it).

The day before my birthday I sat down and wrote some goals in my notebook.  I wasn’t trying to commemorate growing any older at the time, I just wanted to use a new multi-colored pack of sharpies to do something.  My goals were financial, job-based, and fitness but also a large chunk of them were faith-based.  Naturally, those are the ones I want to talk about here.  My Faith-based goals were, in no particular order, as follows:

1: Attend Services more often

2: Build a relationship with a Rabbi

3:Learn how to make some traditional dishes (confession: I really can’t cook very well!)

4: Take Hebrew classes

5: Save $ for trip to Israel ( I missed the age window to be eligible for birthright!  I’ve intended to go for the past five years but I’ve always had some commitment that I couldn’t miss)

6: Learn about raising Jewish children.

These are all pretty self-explanatory, except for number six which, for me at least, requires a lot of explanation.  No, I’m not pregnant nor do I intend to be in the near future.  Actually, I’ve never had any desire to have biological children.  Since I was a small child myself I wanted to be an adoptive parent.  I guess it’s sort of a weird quirk of mine.  Nevertheless, I want my children to be raised Jewish.  It’s absolutely the most important thing to me. I’m going about it in a way that seems far from traditional.  For instance, if I had children of my own they would be Jewish just from their inheritance.  I guess I don’t feel like a child has to physically come out of you to be your child.  I know people definitely have differing opinions on this and all I can say is live and let live.  That said I had a very… unconventional upbringing and I don’t feel prepared at all to raise a child in the traditions of my faith.  If I was in a relationship with a Jewish man than by all means I would share the burden but the fact is that I am not.  While I cannot tell you that I will marry my boyfriend one day I could see us having a long future together and I would never in a million years ask him to convert. He is supportive of me and accepts, if not understands, my deep connection to my faith and that is really all that I need. Parenthood is definitely something that is far off for me but I want to be prepared.  I feel that the greatest gift I could give my future children is bringing them up in a strong faith and a community anchored by common values and beliefs.  So I begin my journey of learning how to become a Jewish mother.

 

Well, I’m certainly long winded today.

More on this later …

 

-E

 

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The Why Behind This Blog

The Why Behind This Blog

So I’ve been thinking and talking a lot about my religion lately.

I never thought I was going to live through a time where being Jewish was going to be threatened. Recent current events (Charlottesville, the news , Trump’s ever changing administration) have made me feel just that. I am just the kind of contrary however, that if I feel threatened, you can guarantee I will be louder and prouder about my religion and my cultural heritage. I recognize that it’s not an insignificant privilege that until this point in my mid 20s I have always felt  safe and that no one has discriminated against me based on physical characteristics and that’s a conversation about race in the US that I’m not qualified to have.

So why this blog ?

 

Number one: while I am not one for rules I try to incorporate the values of my religious tradition into my daily life

Number two: because Judaism is a journey . I come from an interfaith family. There’s bad blood between my parents and it led to my siblings eschewing Judaism. We were never told to pick a religious tradition but I chose Judaism in honor of my grandparents and because even as a small child I have always felt Jewish. I will do a longer post on this eventually but today suffice to say that I am the lone Jew in my family and finding a Jewish community has been a struggle for me and something I am still working on.

Number three: because apparently conscious practice of Judaism has become an act of resistance.

This is my short list. I don’t have a computer these days, and editing on the phone is giving me a hand cramp so this is all I’ll post for now . Looking forward to writing again!

 

– Emmie